NOTE 1: The purpose of this article is to discuss the art of face slapping as done by consenting adults, especially those engaged in a D/s, M/s, top/bottom, or otherwise kinky dynamic. I am no expert on slapping as I have only been the slapper a few times in my life. I am undoubtedly a slapee with many hits of experience under my belt… or on my face. I sincerely welcome input both from those with slapping experience and expertise as well as from those with little to no experience.
NOTE 2: Some people feel very strongly about face slapping. After all, any contact with another person’s face is an intimate act. Whether that act is “good” or “bad” is completely subjective. This article is not about abuse. If the idea of consensual face slapping bothers you, you should look away now.


On Face Slapping

Important Slapping Considerations

The Frugal Domme says, when it comes to face slapping, you CAN’T do it safeLY. You CAN do it safER.

Slapping the face is generally considerably different and more risk-prone than slapping the body. The face holds sensitive skin, (about) 43 muscles, 14 bones, cartilage of the nose, the joint of the jaw, the eyes and a vast array of nerve endings. There is also the neck to consider which is always affected by a face hit. Any of these can be damaged by impact and must be handled with care, even in the most intense scene.

From Wikipedia: “The face is a central sense organ complex.” Keeping in mind the damage that could arise from being hit in the face, it might be helpful to remember the five senses: sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch/feel. Any of these could be affected by a blow to the facial area. In hitting, be aware that you could possibly detach a retina causing long-lasting or permanent eye damage, rupture an eardrum, break a nose, bust a lip or dislocate a jaw (watch especially for people like me with TMJ).

Don’t forget the psychological aspects! The act of face slapping, by default, applies some level of humiliation, often a great deal of it. Without careful application, undesired feelings can be evoked by slapping. Consent is crucial, whether that consent is on a play-by-play basis or given once (as in a Master/slave dynamic).