FIRST LESSON OF BEING THE BAD ASS WOMEN LOVE

Men kiss ass. I tell the very few male friends I have: “You don’t get ass by kissing ass.” Beautiful women have guys throwing themselves at them daily, offering them their seat in the subway, opening doors, smiling and catcalling them, as if any of these actions would get them anywhere. Other men choose to remain on the sidelines, experiencing a disproportionate fear of women as if they felt they did not deserve them (and truth be told, they don’t), probably because they were brought up in broken homes where a dominant mother was the authoritative figure or the father didn’t wear the pants. Whatever the case may be, invariably, most men are in one way or another afraid of women. They may exhibit bravado, not genuine confidence, and women can spot the difference between a guy who is all talk but has little, if any, game. They know this within seconds of meeting a man, and they continue to test men throughout the course of their interaction to see if he really has the balls to take her on every time. If he does pass the test, then he is worthy of her affection.
Women may not admit to it. They may say that they want a guy in touch with his sensitive side, a “good” guy. But what they actually mean is that they want a bad ass kind of guy who won’t turn into an abuser. Because that is what they fall for over and over again. They can’t help but salivate at the sight of a man who exhibits the behavior of a bad boy in all its glory, a man who couldn’t care less if they get to have her or not. Sure, they may say they want their man to be less of an animal but usually end up with what they say they fear most. In life, you do not just get what you want and desire most; you also get what you fear. If you’re afraid of something going wrong, it WILL go wrong. Careful what you wish for, but also be mindful of what you fear, because you create in your life whatever manifests in your head time and again. It happens to women when they say they don’t want “bad” boys, and it happens to men when they feel that they don’t deserve a particular woman: they get what they fear most. In the case of men: none. In the case of women, more of the same.

They say that they don’t want a bad ass guy just like someone might say “It’s good to eat fruits and vegetables.” But when that someone goes to the grocery, it’s hard to remember what is good, because “bad” is automatic, on autopilot, and instead of veggies and fruits you see that juicy steak, the milky cheese, the cakes and sweets. We may say we want to be good, but good takes hard work, so we tend to settle for less. We don’t work out as much as we should, we eat too much, get little done. Losers think this way, so don’t be that loser: work out, eat well, get stuff done in a timely fashion so you’re not all talk and no action.